What is happiness to you? Do you wonder how to be happier?
Do you feel that you rely on, relationships, future events, and material possessions to make you happy too much of the time?
I know I tend to look toward future goals or obtaining things to make me happy sometimes. And this leads to disappointment because this type of happiness is fleeting.
Then you end up on this never-ending treadmill of the next goal, or a shopping spree or tasty meal to make you happy.
There is a sense of restlessness that develops from our cultural bias toward shopping and material gain instead of more lasting rewards.
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Do you ever wonder why so many people who seem well off or successful are miserable or unhappy?
do you puzzle over why other people who don’t seem to be as successful are sometimes happier, more content with themselves, have few regrets about life?
Material wealth or success often do not correlate with happiness levels.
Did You Know That Happiness is a Skill You Can Learn?
Aymee Coget Teaches Happiness skills
This is so important.
I don’t know why it isn’t taught in school. Aymee Coget is a happiness expert who teaches lasting happiness built from within. and you can learn in a short time.
She has a book, private training and works with large companies to teach the difference between hedonic happiness, which is fleeting and comes from things outside yourself, and chariotic happiness, which is the lasting kind that is generated from within. I met her through a friend. She is kind and seems genuinely happy.
It is Possible to Change Your Happiness Setpoint
Mental health experts used to think that we were all born with specific genetic set points for happiness that was pretty much set in stone.
When I heard about the happiness set point I remember thinking that this was very sad because I was miserable and confused a lot of the time in my 20s.
Believing in this concept of a setpoint that could not be changed made me even more unhappy.
I went to Freudian therapist briefly when I was 21 because that was all that was available at the low-income mental health clinic I went to in Sommerville MA.
She was actually a therapist-in-training so maybe she didn’t know what she was doing. But she heard a little about my background growing up on welfare with my wacky composer-playwright-puppeteer mom and pronounced me doomed.
I felt even more depressed the more I went to see her.
She would say things like “if you were paying more for this you would be working harder!” She thought I needed to delve into my past endlessly. I took it all to heart back then but now I realize she was a little nuts herself.
The Psychology of Happiness
The psychology of happiness studies what makes happy people the way they are rather than dwelling on what makes people miserable.
This works so much better than focusing on what is wrong with the past.
It turns out you can learn how to create happiness from within.
To learn how to create your own happiness, check out the year-long Foundations in Well Being Course with Dr. Rick Hansen.
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The Physical Side of Happiness
Nutrition and happiness
Physical and mental health are so intertwined that it can be hard to decide which is having the most effect on how you feel. Nutrition can have a huge effect on mental outlook.
To test this out for yourself try cutting back on refined foods and find out if you have any food sensitivities.
In the present medical paradigm the question of what and who you really are and how you came to feel unwell never even comes up.
But you have the power to create health and vitality for yourself. You can go beyond the surface level of the obvious.
The pill-popping fix-the-machine attitude prevails in our dark age of medicine. But you don’t have to get stuck there.
Physical Activity and Happiness
It sounds obvious but exercise increases the feel-good hormones and chemicals in your body and brain. But it doesn’t have to be strenuous or something you hate. Just something as simple as going for a walk, taking a dance class, doing yoga or finding other activities that you enjoy can be huge mood boosters.
Some of the longest-lived people from the Blue Zones live to be over 100 years old routinely. They never go to the gym or do any kind of formal exercise. But they are active in daily life and are also some of the happiest, most content people on the planet.
Ways to Up Your Happiness Levels
Joe Dispenza helps You Break the Habit of Being Yourself
Dr. Dispenza has written 4 amazing books and travels the world teaching people how to retrain themselves to create a new future. He has a series of guided meditations to help you find your happiness.
He has many free resources as well as in-depth courses on how to systematically heal your body and reinvent yourself to have the life you want. At the time of this article, my sister and I are taking his online course together in preparation for his advanced workshop.
Meditation has so many mental and physical health benefits from creating a calmer happier mind to lowering blood pressure. Studies are beginning to see the benefits of what was once thought of as just an esoteric practice for monks.
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Dina Proctor was so unhappy she could only meditate for 5 minutes at a time and she found that it really helped. Check out her five-minute meditations here.
Read about my Transcendental meditation experience.
Ten Day Vipassana meditation silent retreats are a great way to jump-start your practice. The Vipassana Meditation movement offers free retreats. They find that afterward,s people give generously because they feel the benefits.
I did a retreat at there California location. I was there mostly because of the free food and a chance to get away from my routine. But it was a profound chance to focus on meditation.
Don’t worry, you get frequent breaks and you can talk to the teacher during the private meetings if you really need to. If you have the time I recommend it!
Rama Teaches Self-Healing
Drawing on the healing power of your brain, Rama teaches you how to be happy and balanced. Rama is a heart-centered intuitive healer.
He has an amazing free recorded series of talks using his own powerful system of meditation to heal body and mind at Ever New Joy.
I have had phone and email consults with Rama. Don’t be fooled by the tie-dye T-shirts he wears. Rama is extremely kind and unassuming.
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Mike Dooley Teaches Total Life Transformation
I found Mike on The Secret way back when the law of attraction was all the rage. Mike goes beyond the basics.
He teaches joy and deep contentment through trusting the universe and taking baby steps.
His course Playing the Matrix is helpful in clarifying how to get where you want to be. You can sign up for his amazing “Notes From the Universe” at Tut.com: Totally Unique Thoughts.
Matthew Ferry Teaches Ridiculous Bliss
Matthew Ferry is a master of actionable happiness techniques. He has a series of courses, free materials, and an amazing blog.
Get happy first and draw wealth and success to that happiness.
I signed up for his monthly academy and highly recommend it because it offers affordable and actionable courses.
What I like about Ferry is that he addresses money issues, creativity issues as well happiness and how they all fit together.
Debbie Hampton Creates The Best Brain Possible
Debbie Hampton is an expert on neuroplasticity, the art of improving your mind and brain.
After suffering brain damage after a botched suicide attempt, she learned everything she could about changing her thinking and improving her mind and brain.
Her resources page has lots of great ideas for growing your brain power and cultivating happiness on a daily basis.
You can learn to erase the impact of negative memories with memory reconsolidation.
Daniela Schiller is an expert on reconsolidation of memories
Dr. James Alexander is another expert memory reconsolidation
Courtney Armstrong has PDF directions for memory reconsolidation.
Over to you
What is your idea of happiness and what ways have you found to make life more peaceful and happy? Do you believe it is possible to be deeply happy most of the time? I would love to hear what you think in the comment section!